Sexy Playlist

17 Dec

Sam had work at 3 today so before he went in, I thought maybe we should try something simple that I’d never done before. Something like having sex while music is playing. It’s weird but I can’t recall ever having sex before while listening to music.

I began the task of trying to find the perfect playlist to bone to. And I took it very seriously. I strategically placed one song after the other until I felt that it was flawless. The playlist ended up becoming a compilation of Marvin Gaye, R. Kelly, The Dream, and Maxwell.

I put on the playlist and then started to get Sam in the mood and once we were in the middle of everything I was completely over come by the music. I was critiquing the songs that I picked and their placement on the playlist. I believe that since the objective was to have sex with music playing, I kinda just got way to into the music part. I think if music were to just play in the background while I was getting busy that it wouldn’t be such a big deal, but when it’s music that I picked out and wanted to hear, it was kinda weird for me.

But at least it’s something that I can check off my list of things to do.


On to bigger challenges…


The Explanation

16 Dec

The total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution.” -Bertrand Russell

After a certain point, every relationship departs from the “Honeymoon Phase”. You try to hold onto that phase as long as you can because it makes both parties feel young and invincible, and it makes tough situations not seem so, well.. tough. But eventually, unannounced to you, it goes away. As of today, I’ve been married 1 year, 3 months, and 18 days and I can personally guarantee that our honeymoon phase is over.

Don’t get me wrong though, we’re still madly in love and could never be apart. But those fluttering butterflies I use to get in my stomach when he looked at me have now turned to reposed moths. We’re no longer having little ‘tiffs’ about who loves who more or what we’re going to eat for dinner. I’m not sure what phase comes after the Honeymoon phase but whatever it is, I actually kinda like it. We’re working through legit problems that we may have over looked or that we’re finally discovering. This may sound stupid but when we first got married, I found myself starting little fights because I thought that’s what I was supposed to be doing.

Anyways, enough about my actual marriage and more about the purpose of this blog…

Believe it or not, but before I was married, I hadn’t had sex before. I was very inexperienced and nervous, not to mention self conscious. The sex life that my husband and I share is nothing less than amazing. But I don’t want it to become that same old mundane ritual of man rolling over to wife, asking if she’s in the mood to “do it” and man getting rejected with a “well, I’m kinda tired”. I’m finally ready to try new things, have sex in new places, and most importantly, I’m ready to blog about it. Not in a trashy or skanky kind of way either. If there is any way possible to blog about your sex life in a classy way, that’s the role that I’ll be taking on. The purpose of this blog isn’t to tell you the nitty-gritty secrets of the sex that I’m having (because I’m sure you don’t care), but to educate young men and women in relationships, and to let them know that it’s okay to mix things up a bit and make sex fun (as long as it’s safe sex!).

I hope to update as much as possible with appropriate pictures and details, so STAY TUNED!